Mother's Day

 


Long before I had a child of my own, she saw me as a mother. There was never any pressure from her about marriage or babies. She only wanted me to be happy with whatever I chose. She prepared me for life and showed me what it looks like to be a great mother. Neither of us knew that she was also laying the groundwork for me to mother her. Most of our days are pretty hard, and I constantly remind myself that I can do/have done hard things. It is a privilege that I can care for someone who showed me so much love and care.

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